Hopelessness, I know, can seem like an abyss of nothingness in your heart craving to be filled with something you just don’t have. It is like someone hooked a giant sucking machine to you and sucked out all the life—I’ve been there. I’ve felt it.
Read MoreIt’s rather common thinking amongst mental health practitioners that in order for this group (the not ready, but wish they were group) to change, first, there usually has to be some type of negative catalyst mixed into their current situation. The drugs run out; wife leaves; car crashes; electricity gets turned off; friends stop loaning money, etc. The belief is that in order for them to change, the consequences of not changing have to finally outweigh the consequences for changing.
Read MoreI’m sure there are several great well-researched blogs/scholarly articles on why counseling doesn’t work for some. But I’d like to do something different here and tell you, from my own experience, about three types of people who absolutely can’t change and how they can get ready to do just that
Read MoreYou know, I’m not right about much…marriage has taught me this. And, to be honest, I see this as a strength. Understanding that being “right” about something is not the goal can be quite freeing actually. I used to be an agonistic, a Pentecostal, a Baptist, etc. And all the while, I believed wholeheartedly that my beliefs were ironclad…they were “right…
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