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Autism, and the Harsh Reality of Resentments

Autism, and the Harsh Reality of Resentments

If you are the parent or caretaker of someone with autism, you may be like me and must fight off resentful feelings at every turn.   I’ll admit, by nature, I tend to hold grudges.   Maybe it was the way I grew up. Maybe it’s something in my brain…in my Dinna (DNA) as the wife puts it.  Whatever the cause, I’ve had to fight off the unhealthy craving to harbor resentments for most of my life. 

A Reality of Grief and Autism

A Reality of Grief and Autism

For “Real” eyes only…

My father-in-law (one of my dearest friends) is slipping in and out of consciousness and is confused, gasping for air, has swollen feet and the like. All signs that Heaven is beckoning him home, soon. I wish I could say that I was there for him, but the reality of having a severely special needs child prevents this from being true.

Healing From Mental Illness: What You Can't See, You Can't See

Healing From Mental Illness:  What You Can't See, You Can't See

Years ago, in the middle of my agoraphobic, social phobic, depressed state, you could have never convinced me that healing from mental illness was possible, probable even. Like a tornado crushes a trailer park, mental illness ravaged my entire life.

Yes, We Hire Transgender People and We Don't Care Your Views!

Yes, We Hire Transgender People and We Don't Care Your Views!

The other day I had someone very close to me look at me and say “it’s one thing to work with those types of people [transgenders], but it’s another thing to hire them.” I looked at her in amazement and said, “I think that’s exactly what the whites said about the blacks in years gone by (and even now still unfortunately). I told her it’s racist, sexist people like her that light a fire under me to hire more….people.

Getting Through the Tough Stuff…In One Piece

Getting Through the Tough Stuff…In One Piece

Not gonna lie, this past year has been the toughest since I sobered up thirteen years ago.  Although very slowly, the thought of drinking again, over time, has crept up on me like a cheetah after it’s prey.  

Why Addiction?

Why Addiction?

Yesterday, I was thinking about why people become addicted.  Don’t remember where I heard this, but while thinking of this, something I learned years ago came back to me.  When we seek refuge in drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, love or whatever the addiction may be, we are attempting to satisfy one (or all) of these three needs:

Reverse Anxiety: Part VI, Calling Anxiety's Bluff

Reverse Anxiety:  Part VI, Calling Anxiety's Bluff

Our minds love to project us into a catastrophic future filled with doom and terror.  This part of our makeup can't help but flash images of certainty in front of us.

Reverse Anxiety: Part II, What I Say Anxiety Is NOT!

Reverse Anxiety:  Part II, What I Say Anxiety Is NOT!

Process of illimination works great when diagnosing cars.  Going through a checklist of what is not the problem can be a great way to nail the problem done.    Let’s start off with what anxiety is not.

“Tarp Man…Upcycled”  Part III

“Tarp Man…Upcycled”  Part III

This last Saturday we went out to distribute supplies and build relationships like we always do.  We didn’t go to Tarp Man’s bench this time.  But as we drove home, I noticed he wasn’t warming the bench anymore.