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Autism, and the Harsh Reality of Resentments

Autism, and the Harsh Reality of Resentments

If you are the parent or caretaker of someone with autism, you may be like me and must fight off resentful feelings at every turn.   I’ll admit, by nature, I tend to hold grudges.   Maybe it was the way I grew up. Maybe it’s something in my brain…in my Dinna (DNA) as the wife puts it.  Whatever the cause, I’ve had to fight off the unhealthy craving to harbor resentments for most of my life. 

What Forgiveness Certainly Isn't?

What Forgiveness Certainly Isn't?

’m sick of hearing people project onto others what their version of forgiveness is. “You haven’t forgiven me or else you’d have never brought it back up.” Or, “if you’d truly forgiven me, you’d condone my excuses etc.”

Hogwash! Pigs bathe themselves with more truth than this!

A Reality of Grief and Autism

A Reality of Grief and Autism

For “Real” eyes only…

My father-in-law (one of my dearest friends) is slipping in and out of consciousness and is confused, gasping for air, has swollen feet and the like. All signs that Heaven is beckoning him home, soon. I wish I could say that I was there for him, but the reality of having a severely special needs child prevents this from being true.

Healing From Mental Illness: What You Can't See, You Can't See

Healing From Mental Illness:  What You Can't See, You Can't See

Years ago, in the middle of my agoraphobic, social phobic, depressed state, you could have never convinced me that healing from mental illness was possible, probable even. Like a tornado crushes a trailer park, mental illness ravaged my entire life.

Yes, We Hire Transgender People and We Don't Care Your Views!

Yes, We Hire Transgender People and We Don't Care Your Views!

The other day I had someone very close to me look at me and say “it’s one thing to work with those types of people [transgenders], but it’s another thing to hire them.” I looked at her in amazement and said, “I think that’s exactly what the whites said about the blacks in years gone by (and even now still unfortunately). I told her it’s racist, sexist people like her that light a fire under me to hire more….people.

Why Addiction?

Why Addiction?

Yesterday, I was thinking about why people become addicted.  Don’t remember where I heard this, but while thinking of this, something I learned years ago came back to me.  When we seek refuge in drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, love or whatever the addiction may be, we are attempting to satisfy one (or all) of these three needs:

REALITY, AND THE BRUTAL FACTS

REALITY, AND THE BRUTAL FACTS

ou can't overcome anxiety, addiction or depression without allowing yourself to, first, go outside of the box... a bunch.  People often emotionally limp into my office and look at me as if I have all the answers, thinking I have some magic word/pill that will set them on their feet again - without their effort.

“Tarp Man…Upcycled”  Part III

“Tarp Man…Upcycled”  Part III

This last Saturday we went out to distribute supplies and build relationships like we always do.  We didn’t go to Tarp Man’s bench this time.  But as we drove home, I noticed he wasn’t warming the bench anymore.