What Forgiveness Certainly Isn't?

What Forgiveness Certainly Isn't?

’m sick of hearing people project onto others what their version of forgiveness is. “You haven’t forgiven me or else you’d have never brought it back up.” Or, “if you’d truly forgiven me, you’d condone my excuses etc.”

Hogwash! Pigs bathe themselves with more truth than this!

A Reality of Grief and Autism

A Reality of Grief and Autism

For “Real” eyes only…

My father-in-law (one of my dearest friends) is slipping in and out of consciousness and is confused, gasping for air, has swollen feet and the like. All signs that Heaven is beckoning him home, soon. I wish I could say that I was there for him, but the reality of having a severely special needs child prevents this from being true.

Healing From Mental Illness: What You Can't See, You Can't See

Healing From Mental Illness:  What You Can't See, You Can't See

Years ago, in the middle of my agoraphobic, social phobic, depressed state, you could have never convinced me that healing from mental illness was possible, probable even. Like a tornado crushes a trailer park, mental illness ravaged my entire life.

Keep On Keeping On

Keep On Keeping On

Sometimes life can be so tough that all we can do is keep going. I here all the time that what makes a successful entrepreneur is someone who just doesn’t give up. Well, I believe the same is true for life. Success/fulfillment/peace comes to those that just don’t take no for an answer.

Yes, We Hire Transgender People and We Don't Care Your Views!

Yes, We Hire Transgender People and We Don't Care Your Views!

The other day I had someone very close to me look at me and say “it’s one thing to work with those types of people [transgenders], but it’s another thing to hire them.” I looked at her in amazement and said, “I think that’s exactly what the whites said about the blacks in years gone by (and even now still unfortunately). I told her it’s racist, sexist people like her that light a fire under me to hire more….people.

Getting Through the Tough Stuff…In One Piece

Getting Through the Tough Stuff…In One Piece

Not gonna lie, this past year has been the toughest since I sobered up thirteen years ago.  Although very slowly, the thought of drinking again, over time, has crept up on me like a cheetah after it’s prey.  

Should You Criticize Someone You Love?

Should You Criticize Someone You Love?

Very few people enjoy criticizing others. If you’re like me and very empathetic, you can even feel the pain of others as you criticize them (not to mention your own), so you naturally avoid it. I believe you need to criticize those you love, though. Here’s why. If you don’t criticize their behavior toward you, you’ll likely break up with them (or vice versa).

Sense of Self: Stage One

Sense of Self: Stage One

In my sessions, one of the inescapable issues that arises is a client’s sense of self. This is our clinical way of saying: how a person views themselves and walks around in the world as themselves (relationships, beliefs, societal engagement, etc.).

Two Steps Ahead

Two Steps Ahead

After doing therapy for some time, it didn’t take me long to feel that I was involved in some kind of game as a therapist.  I began to feel like I was on candid camera or I was part of a mass prank.

Why Addiction?

Why Addiction?

Yesterday, I was thinking about why people become addicted.  Don’t remember where I heard this, but while thinking of this, something I learned years ago came back to me.  When we seek refuge in drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, love or whatever the addiction may be, we are attempting to satisfy one (or all) of these three needs:

REALITY, AND THE BRUTAL FACTS

REALITY, AND THE BRUTAL FACTS

ou can't overcome anxiety, addiction or depression without allowing yourself to, first, go outside of the box... a bunch.  People often emotionally limp into my office and look at me as if I have all the answers, thinking I have some magic word/pill that will set them on their feet again - without their effort.

Peace Be The Journey: Introducing Krista Thomas, RP

Peace Be The Journey: Introducing Krista Thomas, RP

When I think about who I am as a therapist and why I decided to pursue this wonderful and wacky helping profession, there are three memories that seem to encapsulate something that is very difficult to put into words.  

Are you a poor judge of…yourself?

Are you a poor judge of…yourself?

Ever been to court?  Ever stood in suspense as the judge contemplated your sentence?  I have. And it blows.  There's a sense of fear and dread, followed by this weird emotion of "whatever!  I'll deal with whatever comes down the pike!" all wrapped up into one discomforting package.